How is bonding between individuals manifested? Bonding is reflected by the way a significant other:$ Speaks about the individual, reflecting an understanding attitude and interest about the individual.
$ Holds and touches an individual.
$ Willingly allows the individual to enter a strange environment.
$ Encourages the individual to be socially secure.
$ Encourages the individual to be self-confident.
$ Encourages the development of the individual's self concept.
$ Responds to the individual's problems:
o acceptance and coping = positive bonding
o detachment, rejection, withdrawal = negative bonding
$ Deals with the individual's problems:
o blaming, ostracizing, condemning = poor bonding
o cooperative, helpful, understanding = good bonding
What are some ways to encourage bonding?
$ Talk face to face with an individual.
$ Get on the other person's level for eye to eye contact when talking
$ Use physical touch when interacting
$ Work at meeting the "match" of the individual by encouraging him to do things for which he is ready and capable.
$ Speak in a loving, caring manner to the individual
$ Show respect for the individual
$ Interact with the individual at his level of understanding and ability
$ Listen carefully to the individual; offer empathy and understanding when he is troubled.
$ Be honest with the individual when describing or dealing with problems
$ Be supportive of the individual as he faces the harsh realities of life and becomes fearful, scared, or concerned about the future
$ Let the individual grow to be his own person by encouraging the development of independent and autonomous thinking
$ Assist the individual in becoming a good problem solver by encouraging open exploration and discussion of options and alternatives when facing problems at home, school, work, or in the community.
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