Yesterday, we viewed signs of a healthy and positive self esteem. Today we look at persons with low self-esteem:Consider themselves lost, unworthy of being cared for.
Are poor risk takers.
Operate out of a fear of rejection.
Are typically unassertive in their behavior with others.
Are fearful of conflict with others.
Are hungry for the approval of others.
Are poor problem solvers.
Are fraught with irrational beliefs and have a tendency to think irrationally.
Are susceptible to all kinds of fears.
Have a tendency to become emotionally stuck and immobilized.
Have a poor "track record" in school or on the job; conversely, they sometimes over compensate and become over-achievers.
Are unable to affirm or to reinforce themselves positively.
Are unable to make an honest assessment of their strengths, qualities, and good points; they find it difficult to accept compliments or recognition from others.
Have poorly defined self-identities with a tendency to be chameleons in order to fit in with others.
Are insecure, anxious, and nervous when they are with others.
Often become overcome with anger about their status in life and are likely to have chronic hostility or chronic depression.
Are easily overcome with despair and depression when they experience a setback or loss in their lives.
Have a tendency to overreact and become de-energized by resentment, anger, and the desire for revenge against those whom they believe have not fully accepted them.
Fulfill roles in their families of origin that are counter-productive and maladaptive. These roles carry over into their adult lives.
Are vulnerable to mental health problems and have a propensity to use addictive behavior to medicate their hurt and pain. Such addictive behavior can include alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, sex, shopping, smoking, workaholism, or the search for excitement, truth, wisdom, and a guru with an easy guide to the achievement of happiness.
Sometimes a close friend can help you evaluate yourself more realistically.
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